How To Know It’s Time To Forgive

forgiveness While meditating on the word forgiveness, I was shown that forgiveness begins with self.

In looking up the definition of the word, two things stood out.  One of the meanings is to pardon, and another is to cease to feel resentment.  I framed it for myself this way.  I need to let myself off the hook.  This doesn’t say that I am not responsible for my actions.  It means that once I clean up my side of the street, I no longer hold myself hostage for the wrongs that I’ve done to myself or others.

From an energetic standpoint, when we hold on to unforgiveness, we bind ourselves to the person who hurt us.  When we cease to feel resentment not only do we free the other person we free ourselves as well.

How do we know we are ready to forgive?  When our pain threshold is reached.  We get tired of feeling angry or hurt all of the time and peace becomes more inviting than suffering.  Another way to be ready to forgive is to recognize that our pain is no longer working.  For example, “He done me wrong,” will often garner us sympathy from others.  For awhile we are getting something in return for our pain.  Before long though those people get tired of hearing the same ole, same ole and they distance themselves because they don’t want to listen to it anymore.  If you are really aware, you get tired of hearing it yourself.

How to forgive?

Be willing.  A mantra that I use is this.  I am willing to be willing to be willing.  Maybe that is all we can do at first is to say these words.  These words open us to GOD (Good – Orderly – Direction).  Once we allow ourselves to be directed by GUS (God – Universe – Spirit), we don’t really need to know how it will unfold.  Say the words and see what happens.  And, if you are still not ready?  Fake it ’til you make it!

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Why You May Be Gaining Weight

bigstock-Overweight-Woman-Getting-Dress-152920883-710x250Have you gained weight like I have over the last few months?  Are you doing everything right as far as diet and exercise but the weight won’t budge?  During an Intuitive Reading with a client recently I was gifted with the reason why so many of us have gained weight lately.

Those of us who are empaths (energetically sensitive) are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, ungrounded, scattered and downright crazy at times.  We live in challenging age which makes us want to disconnect from the chaos by energetically leaving our body.  As a result of this disconnect, our bodies are putting on extra pounds to try and keep us in them.  We are not being betrayed by our bodies we are being helped in a very primal way.  You are a physical being and an energetic one as well.  The physical is the home for the energetic.  The physical body speaks to us through pain and pleasure and weight loss and weight gain.

I believe that staying present in the body can bring us back into balance.   Here are some suggestions on how to accomplish this:

  • an intentional movement like yoga or dance
  • being in nature.  Put your bare feet on the Earth and your back up against a tree
  • playing with children and animals
  • apply root lock.  Squeeze the sphincter muscle, sex organs, and lower abdominals and hold as up to 30 sec.  Release and repeat until you feel back in your body.  (do not apply root lock if pregnant or menstruating)
  • visualize roots growing from the bottoms of your feet and plunging into the Earth and grounding you there.
  • carry your favorite stones in your pockets.  Hematite, tiger’s eye, apache tear, etc. are all excellent stones to help you ground.
  • place a few drops of essential oil on the bottom of your feet.  Clary sage, cypress, lavender are just a couple you can try.

Let me know if you have been experiencing this too.  It helps to know that we are not alone.  Find out more about me here.

Selfie #1

 

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Watercolor by Della

I have been working on self-love lately, and I came upon this idea to paint how I felt about me.  The first thing I placed on the paper was a big heart.  From there I just let my creative spirit guide me.

I feel as if the heart is a seed and that I have planted myself on rocky soil.  I am firmly planted though.  Even I can see that.  My puny arms are raised in the air letting the light in as much as I am able to.

I started exploring this because I have a life long habit of falling for unavailable men (rocky soil).  It has been two years since my last relationship, and I am getting closer to wanting to go down that road again.  I feel the inner work is necessary before I proceed any further.  My thin arms and legs tell me I am not yet strong in this self-love I am developing.  But the light that surrounds me gives me courage to continue the journey.

I’d like to create a painting once a month to see how I am progressing over time.  I’ll share those paintings with you here.

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Word of The Day: Participation

socialaction-topblock-bgDefinition:  taking part, a sharing

Today’s Guidance asks how are we participating in the world around us?  Most of us are so busy we are not noticing the birds in the trees or the clouds in the sky.  We have become very self-absorbed.  I sense that it has a lot to do with just how busy we all are these days.  We keep our heads down and plow ahead to get everything done that we need to in a day.  We think if we stop and say hi to the neighbor on the street that we will get sidetracked from getting our to do’s done.  The question then becomes what are we missing when we don’t participate in life when it comes calling?  The answer is connection.

When I tuned into the word more deeply, Guidance showed me that participation has a lot to do with awareness.  When I notice the birds singing in the tree my energy automatically connects with those birds and I am no longer separate from those birds.  By participating in life around me, it connects me to the birds and to my neighbor on the street and to the people reading this post.  Are you up for participating in life today?

 

Word of The Day: Awareness

Leaf (1 of 1)Definition:  the state or condition of being aware; having knowledge; consciousness:

Today is a good day to pull in your scattered energies and listen to your intuition.  What are the messages being offered that you may not be aware of?

One of the ways to achieve going inward is by placing your fingertips and thumb tips together as if you are holding a ball.  Now rest this mudra in front of your solar plexus and begin to breathe long, slow and deep.  Notice how when your breath slows down your mind slows down.  The quieter the mind can become the more you are able to tap into awareness.  Now ask Spirit what message does It have for you today?  Listen in the stillness for your answers.

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Always Do Your Best

ALWAYSDOYOURBEST-1024x512Every morning I pick an agreement out of The Four Agreements cards by Don Miguel Ruiz to hold as a theme for the day.  Always Do Your Best is my favorite.  When I get down on myself for something I think I did poorly at I can ask if I have done my best at that moment.  I almost always can say yes.  When I hold space for myself and can ask the question it gives me an opportunity to suspend judgment.

I am also following the Deepak & Oprah program on shedding weight and one of the journaling questions is to reflect on how self-judgment fragments your life and keeps you out of balance.  When I read the word fragments I had this image of myself flying into a thousand pieces every time I am in self-judgment.  That visual really got my attention.  No wonder I have a hard time being in my body some days.

Here is a meditation video I created a while ago to help bring back fragmented pieces of self.

What is your favorite agreement of the Four Agreements and why?

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Connect With Your Spirit Guides Through Art For Health & Wellness

My Heart is WholeI love to paint and when my friend Elizabeth Fritz invited me to connect with my Spirit Guides through the Soul Art Process I immediately said yes.

I have worked with many guides in many ways over the years but have never experienced anything like this before.  The Soul Art process is a technique that connects the individual to their subconscious self for wisdom and guidance. The beauty of this process is that you need no artistic skills whatsoever to have an enlightening experience.

My Soul Art journey was incredibly revealing to me.  What came forth onto the canvas wasn’t what I expected at all.  I came into the day wanting to heal some health issues I had been struggling with lately.  As you can see by the image above I painted a big heart.  The message from my painting is this:  the key to healing my health issues is to heal my broken heart.  I had spent the past two years recovering from the ending of an important relationship and my health suffered from the grief.

Elizabeth brought me through a series of exercises that freed my mind enough to allow creative guidance through.  The brilliance of the Soul Art Process is that it gets you out of your own way with such gentleness that you don’t even realize it is happening.

I have my painting hanging in my bedroom.  Every time I look at it I am reminded to tend to my heart.  I went through this process over two months ago.  Since that time my health has improved to such a state that I feel stronger and healthier than I have in many years.  I recently went to the doctor for a physical and I got all the tests they’d let me have.  I wanted scientific proof that what I was feeling about my health was real.  Other than a slightly high cholesterol level I am in excellent health.

This playshop is a great way to pair metaphysics with what you may already be doing physically to improve your health and overall wellness.  I hope you can join Elizabeth and me on March 10th for this special playshop.   Click here to find out more and to register.

Black Panther Medicine

ab4aa8446684b4fe568bf5949f380979--dark-moon-the-moonBlack Panther came to me in a vision this morning.  I was asking for Guidance around a particular issue around romance.  I saw myself in a dark forest sitting by a fire.  I was covered in furs and very much alone.  She walked up to me and I began to weep.  I didn’t want her as my guide.  Black Panther has been with me before when I was living my life as a single parent.  Panthers are very solitary and tend to raise their young alone.  I am tired of being alone.

She invited me to join her up in a tree where I could look down upon myself from a higher level.  I could see that I was lonely and my body felt like an empty shell.  I didn’t know if this was how others see me or how I see myself.  As the vision was closing she gave me a small stone made of hematite.

Afterwards, I looked up the symbolism in the vision.  Black Panther represents the darker feminine energy of the moon.  She is very grounding and protective.   She teaches one to be alone but not lonely.  She is very strong, graceful and independent.  She reminds me to climb my symbolic tree and look at things from a higher perspective.

Hematite is a very protective and grounding stone much like the panther herself.  It brings a sense of calm and deflects negative energy as its stone has a mirror-like quality.  I bought myself a Christmas present after reading this.  I knew I wanted a  bracelet to wear to remind me of my Panther Medicine.  Here is another message I received today:

You love so much that you don’t need anyone else’s love to make you happy.
~ Don Miguel Ruiz~

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Surrender

surrender_balloonDefinition – to cease resistance.

I have been contemplating surrender for several days now.  Every time I feel like I am ready to surrender I pause.  I pause because surrender always meant giving my power away to some nameless, faceless being.  Don’t get me wrong.  I am a believer in a power greater than myself.  But the idea of surrendering to that power is something I find myself reluctant to do.

After many nights of reflecting on the word, I realized I don’t need to surrender to some being.  I just need to surrender.  It’s the act of surrender that is important here and not the who or what I am surrendering to.

As I write this I can feel my body and mind easing into surrender.  I know this is not a one time deal.  It is a practice just like anything else I want to commit to in my life.

How do you feel about surrender?

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Synchronicity

 

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Photo Art by Della 

Definition:  the simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.

 

No discernible causal connection. . . Hmmmm.  I have different thoughts about this definition.

These past few days events would appear, to the casual observer, that I have very bad luck.  Not one to believe in luck I was able to step back and see how The Divine had a hand in orchestrating events to work out in my favor.

On Monday, I broke a tooth while eating a peanut butter filled cracker.  Ouch!  Having recently moved from Wisconsin to Minnesota I was unsure where I stood with my health insurance.  After many, many, many calls I was able to find out that I still have insurance through the end of the month and my tooth would be fully covered as long as I found a dentist in Wisconsin.   The closest dentist who could work on me fast was an hour and a half away.  I had already had a scheduled appointment with my naturopath for the same day back in Minnesota.  I thought I could easily go from one to the other and spend some time in between in a nice coffee shop, which I did.

I was enjoying my book and a nice cup of tea when the scheduler for my naturopath walked through the door.  After our greeting, she asked me why I missed my appointment on Monday.  I’m like, wait, my appointment is today!  Since she didn’t know how the mix up got made she borrowed my phone to see if she could get me in to see my naturopath that day.  The appointment was made but that gave me another 2 hours to wait to be seen.  Since they give massages out of the same office she hooked me up with a free massage to ease my wait.  Yay me!

I got out of the massage and ten minutes later my naturopath was able to see me because his previous appointment ended early.   Not only did I get a free massage my appointment with my naturopath was only 10 minutes later than what I thought was originally scheduled.

Synchronicity was able to flow so easily for me because I didn’t contract when all of this went awry.  I just went with it.  The definition of the word says no apparent causal connection.  I believe The Divine connected all these events together for me because I was in a state of allowing.  I am not special nor was I being rewarded for good behavior.   I simply wasn’t resistant when the opportunities showed up.

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