While meditating on the word forgiveness, I was shown that forgiveness begins with self.
In looking up the definition of the word, two things stood out. One of the meanings is to pardon, and another is to cease to feel resentment. I framed it for myself this way. I need to let myself off the hook. This doesn’t say that I am not responsible for my actions. It means that once I clean up my side of the street, I no longer hold myself hostage for the wrongs that I’ve done to myself or others.
From an energetic standpoint, when we hold on to unforgiveness, we bind ourselves to the person who hurt us. When we cease to feel resentment not only do we free the other person we free ourselves as well.
How do we know we are ready to forgive? When our pain threshold is reached. We get tired of feeling angry or hurt all of the time and peace becomes more inviting than suffering. Another way to be ready to forgive is to recognize that our pain is no longer working. For example, “He done me wrong,” will often garner us sympathy from others. For awhile we are getting something in return for our pain. Before long though those people get tired of hearing the same ole, same ole and they distance themselves because they don’t want to listen to it anymore. If you are really aware, you get tired of hearing it yourself.
How to forgive?
Be willing. A mantra that I use is this. I am willing to be willing to be willing. Maybe that is all we can do at first is to say these words. These words open us to GOD (Good – Orderly – Direction). Once we allow ourselves to be directed by GUS (God – Universe – Spirit), we don’t really need to know how it will unfold. Say the words and see what happens. And, if you are still not ready? Fake it ’til you make it!
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