What Is The Difference? Intentions vs. Resolutions

Screen-Shot-2015-12-31-at-8.26.14-AMAccording to the dictionary, a resolution is a decision or a determination.  An intention is an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.   That sure cleared things up didn’t it?

We mostly hear of resolutions here in the Western Hemisphere around New Years Day.  According to Wikepedia A New Year’s resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their life.

But, the tradition has much older roots.

Babylonians made promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts.

The Romans began each year by making promises to the god Janus, for whom the month of January is named.

In the Medieval era, the knights took the “peacock vow” at the end of the Christmas season each year to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry.

And so on. . .

Over the last several decades making a resolution has gotten a bad rap because the word often reminds us of past resolution failures.  How many of us have made a resolution New Year’s Day only to give it up by February?  Intentions have recently come to the lips of many New Thought leaders as a way to change our mindset from one of failure to one of the possibility of success.

As you can see by the above definition, the words invariably mean the same thing.  I honestly feel that the best word to use for creating new habits in your life is ultimately up to you.  Ask yourself this question, which word brings you in alignment with success?  Once you’ve answered that question go ahead and set your intentions, resolutions, goals, and make your decisions,  declarations to yourself and the Universe.  Just remember one thing.  Make them simple and fun.

I have created a special New Years Day special event to help you set your intentions for the year.  You can find out more here.  I hope you can join me.

 

What Is a Chakra?

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In it’s simplest of terms a chakra is an energy center that reflects what is going on within our physical, mental and emotional self. I like to think of each energy center as a hard drive that stores information about our experiences. Those experiences and how we process them can determine whether or not our hard drive runs efficiently or whether it is so chock-full of old data that it affects the entire system and begins to shut down.

Continuing with the computer metaphor, there are 7 main hard drives located in the physical body. Each hard drive holds information about the particular center it governs. Each chakra or center is associated with a color, an element, organs or structures of the physical body, and emotional aspects of our being.
For example, the center at the base of the spine called with the 1st or root chakra is aligned with the color red, the element of earth, the organs of elimination and the emotions of safety and security. Our childhood experiences are stored in this chakra.
If we had a traumatic childhood and were unable to process those experiences safely and healthily our body may begin to show that trauma by experiencing dis-ease. Dis-ease in this center can include issues with the organs of elimination. That can show up merely as constipation or more dramatically as colon cancer. Emotionally you will have a lot of fear and insecurity and a feeling of not belonging here on Earth or within your own family.
A person who is balanced in this energy center tends to be grounded, confident and emotionally stable and your organs of elimination are functioning efficiently.
How does one bring this energy center back into balance if it is off? Connecting to the Earth, yoga, meditation, and a desire to heal are keys to bringing this hard drive back online.
This example is just one of the 7 chakras we will be exploring during my Kundalini Yoga workshop this Friday. Click on the link to register

Shamanic Journey: Hummingbird Medicine

bm6gr0Whenever I have a question that my logical mind can’t answer I practice a technique called shamanic journeying.  Steven Farmer has a beautiful guided shamanic meditation on Hay House Meditations (free on their podcast app).  This particular journey invites an animal guide in to help you gain insight into your question.

I have been struggling with how and what to eat that will best support my body in being it’s healthiest expression.  My question was what should I be eating to accomplish this.

As I have done this meditation many times, it was easy for me to drop into my sacred place in my imagination an allow Guidance to pop in.  Guidance showed up in the form of a tiny little hummingbird flying around.  At first, I was confused because hummingbirds eat all. of. The. Time. And mostly nectar (sugar).  I’m like, that can’t be right!  And, then, I let go and was able to discern the deeper meaning of hummingbird.  Hummingbirds in many spiritual circles represent joy.  It isn’t what I eat that matters so much as how I eat.  I rarely eat with joy.

I often have a lot of angst attached to what I eat, when I eat, how I eat, what I am doing while I eat, etc. that eating becomes a stressor instead of a pleasure.   As joy only exists in the present moment, it reminds me to savor and deeply experience the food when I do eat.   It’s an excellent place to start.  I think the rest will fall into place if I allow joy to be my guide.  Before I eat something I can start by asking myself will this bring me joy?  It’s an interesting experiment that I am looking forward to exploring.

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How To Know It’s Time To Forgive

forgiveness While meditating on the word forgiveness, I was shown that forgiveness begins with self.

In looking up the definition of the word, two things stood out.  One of the meanings is to pardon, and another is to cease to feel resentment.  I framed it for myself this way.  I need to let myself off the hook.  This doesn’t say that I am not responsible for my actions.  It means that once I clean up my side of the street, I no longer hold myself hostage for the wrongs that I’ve done to myself or others.

From an energetic standpoint, when we hold on to unforgiveness, we bind ourselves to the person who hurt us.  When we cease to feel resentment not only do we free the other person we free ourselves as well.

How do we know we are ready to forgive?  When our pain threshold is reached.  We get tired of feeling angry or hurt all of the time and peace becomes more inviting than suffering.  Another way to be ready to forgive is to recognize that our pain is no longer working.  For example, “He done me wrong,” will often garner us sympathy from others.  For awhile we are getting something in return for our pain.  Before long though those people get tired of hearing the same ole, same ole and they distance themselves because they don’t want to listen to it anymore.  If you are really aware, you get tired of hearing it yourself.

How to forgive?

Be willing.  A mantra that I use is this.  I am willing to be willing to be willing.  Maybe that is all we can do at first is to say these words.  These words open us to GOD (Good – Orderly – Direction).  Once we allow ourselves to be directed by GUS (God – Universe – Spirit), we don’t really need to know how it will unfold.  Say the words and see what happens.  And, if you are still not ready?  Fake it ’til you make it!

Della offers intuitive readings, both online and in person.  Click here to find out more.

Why You May Be Gaining Weight

bigstock-Overweight-Woman-Getting-Dress-152920883-710x250Have you gained weight like I have over the last few months?  Are you doing everything right as far as diet and exercise but the weight won’t budge?  During an Intuitive Reading with a client recently I was gifted with the reason why so many of us have gained weight lately.

Those of us who are empaths (energetically sensitive) are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, ungrounded, scattered and downright crazy at times.  We live in challenging age which makes us want to disconnect from the chaos by energetically leaving our body.  As a result of this disconnect, our bodies are putting on extra pounds to try and keep us in them.  We are not being betrayed by our bodies we are being helped in a very primal way.  You are a physical being and an energetic one as well.  The physical is the home for the energetic.  The physical body speaks to us through pain and pleasure and weight loss and weight gain.

I believe that staying present in the body can bring us back into balance.   Here are some suggestions on how to accomplish this:

  • an intentional movement like yoga or dance
  • being in nature.  Put your bare feet on the Earth and your back up against a tree
  • playing with children and animals
  • apply root lock.  Squeeze the sphincter muscle, sex organs, and lower abdominals and hold as up to 30 sec.  Release and repeat until you feel back in your body.  (do not apply root lock if pregnant or menstruating)
  • visualize roots growing from the bottoms of your feet and plunging into the Earth and grounding you there.
  • carry your favorite stones in your pockets.  Hematite, tiger’s eye, apache tear, etc. are all excellent stones to help you ground.
  • place a few drops of essential oil on the bottom of your feet.  Clary sage, cypress, lavender are just a couple you can try.

Let me know if you have been experiencing this too.  It helps to know that we are not alone.  Find out more about me here.

Always Do Your Best

ALWAYSDOYOURBEST-1024x512Every morning I pick an agreement out of The Four Agreements cards by Don Miguel Ruiz to hold as a theme for the day.  Always Do Your Best is my favorite.  When I get down on myself for something I think I did poorly at I can ask if I have done my best at that moment.  I almost always can say yes.  When I hold space for myself and can ask the question it gives me an opportunity to suspend judgment.

I am also following the Deepak & Oprah program on shedding weight and one of the journaling questions is to reflect on how self-judgment fragments your life and keeps you out of balance.  When I read the word fragments I had this image of myself flying into a thousand pieces every time I am in self-judgment.  That visual really got my attention.  No wonder I have a hard time being in my body some days.

Here is a meditation video I created a while ago to help bring back fragmented pieces of self.

What is your favorite agreement of the Four Agreements and why?

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Connect With Your Spirit Guides Through Art For Health & Wellness

My Heart is WholeI love to paint and when my friend Elizabeth Fritz invited me to connect with my Spirit Guides through the Soul Art Process I immediately said yes.

I have worked with many guides in many ways over the years but have never experienced anything like this before.  The Soul Art process is a technique that connects the individual to their subconscious self for wisdom and guidance. The beauty of this process is that you need no artistic skills whatsoever to have an enlightening experience.

My Soul Art journey was incredibly revealing to me.  What came forth onto the canvas wasn’t what I expected at all.  I came into the day wanting to heal some health issues I had been struggling with lately.  As you can see by the image above I painted a big heart.  The message from my painting is this:  the key to healing my health issues is to heal my broken heart.  I had spent the past two years recovering from the ending of an important relationship and my health suffered from the grief.

Elizabeth brought me through a series of exercises that freed my mind enough to allow creative guidance through.  The brilliance of the Soul Art Process is that it gets you out of your own way with such gentleness that you don’t even realize it is happening.

I have my painting hanging in my bedroom.  Every time I look at it I am reminded to tend to my heart.  I went through this process over two months ago.  Since that time my health has improved to such a state that I feel stronger and healthier than I have in many years.  I recently went to the doctor for a physical and I got all the tests they’d let me have.  I wanted scientific proof that what I was feeling about my health was real.  Other than a slightly high cholesterol level I am in excellent health.

This playshop is a great way to pair metaphysics with what you may already be doing physically to improve your health and overall wellness.  I hope you can join Elizabeth and me on March 10th for this special playshop.   Click here to find out more and to register.

Is This Mine?

question-mark-headIn a previous blog post on being an empath, I talked about how an empath picks up on the feelings of the people around them.   This can become very confusing for the person who is just trying to live their life.  For example, one morning while practicing yoga I began to feel anxiety in my chest.  I didn’t know what the fear was about until I was journaling about it later.  As I was writing, I asked my body if this anxiety was mine?  The stress immediately left me.  I was able to pinpoint who I was picking up on and recognize that, once again, I was unconsciously tuning into someone else’s feelings and experiencing them as my own.

The interesting thing about this is the person I was picking up on was hundreds of miles away.  The closer you are to people in your life the more “connected energetically” an empath is to the people around them regardless of how close or far away.  As I said, this can become confusing.  It took me many years to remember to ask if what I was feeling was mine.  This kind of inquiry has worked every time for me in navigating what is mine and what is other people’s stuff.  I have found that if the energy I am feeling is my own, it stays with me when I ask the question, “Is this mine?”  If it is NOT my stuff, it leaves immediately.

Della is an intuitive healer and a yoga teacher.  You can find out more about her services here.

Empath: The New Buzz Word

empath-or-highly-sensitive1First off, let’s talk about what an empath is.  An empath is a highly sensitive individual who picks up on the energies of those around them.  If you see someone in pain you can feel it.  Being in a crowd overwhelms you.  You may be sensitive to smells, foods, people, situations, and even things.  It may feel like you never want to leave the house even on a good day.

Not all empaths are created equal either.   Being an empath myself I have met people who are more sensitive and less sensitive than I am.  What bothers me may not bother you.  As a child, you may have been easily emotional and liked to spend lots of time alone.

We empaths used to be called overly emotional or “too” sensitive and it was considered a negative thing.  Now, we are being recognized for the highly intuitive beings that we are.  We are the healers of the world.  We tend to be nurturers and environmentally conscious.  We are highly creative and are often the person that is turned to when you need a shoulder to cry on.

For years, I have been reading and hearing that we as a human race will some day evolve to a place where we can communicate with one another telepathically.  Being an empath is the start of that evolution.  It’s not that an empath can read your mind but they do sense the emotions that you are emitting.  Because this is not mainstream thinking it is easy for the empath to wonder if there is something wrong with them.  We often feel like we are crazy.  We may have been medicated as children or we drank and used drugs as we got older to shut it off, never knowing what it was.  If this is you, you are not alone.

I have been one of the lucky ones.   I used drink and drugs when I was younger but that didn’t work for me.  I didn’t start to feel a measure of peace around this gift, and yes, it is a gift, until I started practicing Kundalini Yoga over 12 years ago.  Since then I have learned many ways to bring myself back into balance.   I want to share them with you.  Check out my workshop The Care & Feeding of an Empath.