Definition – Compliance with a command or law; submission to authority; performing that which is required.
I immediately got rankled when I heard that obedience was the word of the day. Obviously, I have some resistance here. Once I calmed down I realized my guides were saying this word is about obeying the heart and not any kind of external submission to man.
My heart always knows the truth. It’s getting out of my head and into my heart that is the challange. There is a meditation in Kundalini Yoga called Guru Pranam. The idea is to bow down in childs pose with your hands above your head into prayer pose. This raises your heart above your head. The breathing automatically becomes long and deep. This pose is an easy way to get out of your head and listen to the wisdom of the heart. I invite you to try it.
Della is a yogi, healer, intuitive reader and hypnotherapist. You can find out about her services here.
Are you feeling “off” now that the eclipse is over? I know I am. Leading up to the eclipse I was experiencing a great deal of fatigue and anxiety. Now that the eclipse is over I feel depressed and even more fatigue. The energy of the eclipse brought a lot of my issues to the surface. I had been happily ignoring them where they were buried.
Now that those issues are uncovered I have no choice but to face them. Yes, of course, there is always a choice, but do I really want to let those buried emotions come out of their hidey holes in inappropriate ways any longer? Nope.
I live in an old historic school-house and the building is quite large. I live here with many other people. The weird thing is that for some reason everyone but me left for an extended period of time and I am here all by myself. I live on the very top floor in the attic. My first night alone I was completely creeped out to be here by myself. I hardly slept at all and I was too afraid to go down stairs to pee in the middle of the night so I used a Tupperware container to relieve myself in.
The next morning I was able to get in touch with just how ridiculous my fear of being alone in the school was. I decided to see those night time fears as a metaphor for all the scary monsters in my unconscious’ closet. I haven’t peed in Tupperware since! The point is, my issues (monsters in my closet) are all fears, fear of being abandoned, fear of rejection, fear of not having enough money, fear of being alone, and the list goes on and on. Fear is what wants to be healed right now and I am going with it.
There is a huge physical response when you let go of something that no longer serves you. It is like a virus that your body is trying to purge. The symptoms can be very similar. In my case, the virus (fear) is still wiggling around in my body trying to find purchase. The eclipse was the microscope that found the virus and my intention to heal is the antigen that will bring me back to myself.
Fear isn’t the enemy though. It was created to keep us safe. Back in the day, this was necessary for survival. Fear told us when to run and hide from the giant saber tooth tiger that wanted to eat us. As humanity evolved fear took on a new role. It adapted to its new environment. No longer is it needed to warn us of saber tooth tigers. Now days fear tells us to be afraid of everything and everyone. It even tells us to fear love. Yet love is the only thing that can face fear and shine a light on the truth.
I am going to say this right here and you may wince when you read this. I still need my fear. I am not always paying attention and I want a warning if I am in harms way. I have a strong survival instinct within me and fear can help me stay alive. Where it gets tricky is knowing when you are in danger or just being afraid because you are afraid. This is where discernment comes in.
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary discernment is the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure. The very nature of fear is obscure which means it’s hidden in darkness. Think about the moon hiding the sun during an eclipse. If the moon is our fears and the sun is our light then we can see how the Universe is giving us a metaphor that is impossible to miss.
How do we get to discernment? Here are some of the tools I use:
I write every day. I have a 500 word a day practice. You can read about how I go about this here
yoga & meditation
Pranayam – you can’t hold fear in your body and breathe deeply at the same time (wise words from my first yoga teacher)
anything that gets me out of my head and into my heart.
This message isn’t about eliminating fear. It is about using fear to our advantage. I live in a world where fear thrives. That is the nature of living on this planet where duality is the theme. I don’t believe we are to ignore fear, or expunge it, nor deny it. The key to enlightenment isn’t the absence of fear but freedom from it. It is up to us to choose it.
Della is an intuitive reader, teacher, and healer. If you would like to find out more about how she can assist you with the eclipse blues click here.
In a previous blog post on being an empath I talked about how an empath picks up on the feelings of the people around them. This can become very confusing for the person who is just trying to live their life. For example, this morning while practicing yoga I began to feel anxiety in my chest. I didn’t know what the anxiety was about until I was journaling about it later. As I was writing I asked my body if this anxiety was mine? The anxiety immediately left me. I was able to pinpoint who I was picking up on and recognize that, once again, I was unconsciously tuning into someone else’s feelings and experiencing them as my own.
The interesting thing about this is the person I was picking up on was hundreds of miles away. The closer you are to people in your life the more “connected energetically” an empath is to the people around them. As I said, this can become confusing. It took me many years to remember to ask if what I was feeling was mine. This kind of inquiry has worked every time for me in navigating what is mine and what is other people’s stuff. I have found that if the energy I am feeling is my own it stays with me when I ask the question, “Is this mine?” If it is NOT my stuff it leaves immediately.
This is one of the techniques I will be teaching in my Care & Feeding of an Empath special event on August 5th. Click here to find out more.
First off, let’s talk about what an empath is. An empath is a highly sensitive individual who picks up on the energies of those around them. If you see someone in pain you can feel it. Being in a crowd overwhelms you. You may be sensitive to smells, foods, people, situations, and even things. It may feel like you never want to leave the house even on a good day.
Not all empaths are created equal either. Being an empath myself I have met people who are more sensitive and less sensitive than I am. What bothers me may not bother you. As a child, you may have been easily emotional and liked to spend lots of time alone.
We empaths used to be called overly emotional or “too” sensitive and it was considered a negative thing. Now, we are being recognized for the highly intuitive beings that we are. We are the healers of the world. We tend to be nurturers and environmentally conscious. We are highly creative and are often the person that is turned to when you need a shoulder to cry on.
For years, I have been reading and hearing that we as a human race will some day evolve to a place where we can communicate with one another telepathically. Being an empath is the start of that evolution. It’s not that an empath can read your mind but they do sense the emotions that you are emitting. Because this is not mainstream thinking it is easy for the empath to wonder if there is something wrong with them. We often feel like we are crazy. We may have been medicated as children or we drank and used drugs as we got older to shut it off, never knowing what it was. If this is you, you are not alone.
I have been one of the lucky ones. I used drink and drugs when I was younger but that didn’t work for me. I didn’t start to feel a measure of peace around this gift, and yes, it is a gift, until I started practicing Kundalini Yoga over 12 years ago. Since then I have learned many ways to bring myself back into balance. I want to share them with you. Check out my workshop The Care & Feeding of an Empath.
I’ve been writing. Every day. It’s something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time (can you say years!) but haven’t been able to stick with for more than a few days.
I was listening to a podcast recently and the guest said she writes 500 words a day before she gets onto social media. For some reason that really resonated and I thought I would give it a try.
I am finding this to be easy. My only “rule” is that I write 500 words. I tried for a few days to get it done before I hopped onto Facebook but that didn’t last long. I found that just the fact that it only had to be 500 words is all that really mattered.
500 words is nothing. It is only a few paragraphs. I open up a blank document and turn the word count on and begin to write. Some days I have an idea for a blog and others its just words for my journal which, once I am finished, I copy and paste the words in to. This has been a very satisfying experiment that I plan to keep doing.
Knowing myself very well I tend to need some psychological trigger to either get me to do or quit a behavior. The magic word this time was 500. I could wrap my mind around that. There is an end goal in sight. It is fun to see the word count go up and up. The last few days I have finished my 500 words without even struggling.
If you are a writer and you want to consistently get words out of your head and onto the paper, tablet, etc. find that magic thing that works for you. I have tried many different ways over the years to get me to write every day. I have bought fancy journals that remain half filled. And, then of course, I have to buy another one to start over again. I have hand painted journal covers thinking that putting all that energy into the cover would get me to write. I have created special photo journals on my computer thinking that would do the trick. None of it worked until now. It is the simplicity of 500 words that was my magic bullet. I hope you find yours.
On the rare morning that I don’t do yoga it’s because my whole being is called to the tub. I nice hot bath, for me, is another form of meditation. The warm water surrounds me and I feel encased as if in the womb.
I use to feel guilty when the tub’s call was louder than my yoga mat. It wasn’t until recently that I recognized the value of the deep silence that soaking in the bath brings. This silence is what I seek to attain through my more formal meditation practice.
I believe that whatever or where ever you can find the silence thats meditation. Whether that be a walk in the woods, a hammock by the sea or a nice warm bath. No yoga mat required.
Since my boyfriend and I broke up a year ago my self-esteem has been in the crapper. Unconsciously I had decided my worth was based on whether or not he loved me. Yes, I know this doesn’t make much sense and many people wiser than myself would tell me not to think this way. Yet, I believe this is a very human condition. We eartlhy creatures are constantly looking to others to tell us we are o.k.
This past week I went back for a visit to the city where he and I spent so much of our time together. Every where I went I could feel him in the memories that we shared. I realized that it wasn’t him that I was missing but the feeling of being in love. When I was in love with him I felt beautiful, sexy and wanted. I think that is the reason that it was so hard to let the relationship go. I simply didn’t want to give up those powerful feelings.
During my stay in the Cities my friend Elizabeth Fritz, who is a Soul Art Facilitator, brought me through a process that helped me find myself again. The journey we took that day with art and meditation made me realize that the most important relationship I have is the one to myself.
The image that you see above is part of the painting that I made during the Soul Art process. The eye is my eye, looking at me with the eyes of love. It is a reminder that it’s time to fall in love with me again. And, that my worth can not be determined by someone else’s actions or opinions of me.
This painting is actually a meditation mat. I use it every day during my yoga and meditation practice. It reminds me that I am my own beloved. In the image below you can see that there is a crown in the upper left hand corner. That is so I remember that I am a noble woman and to carry myself as such. My name Della means noble.
The image on the right represents all the many spiritual paths I have been on that have always led me back to center.
My take away from this journey is that the greatest gift to Self is Self Love. And, the surest way to lose my way, is by expecting another to validate me. I am on the road to falling in love again. . . and its with me.
Check out the playshop Elizabeth and I will be offering in June. You too can make your own mediation mat through the process of yoga and soul art.
Has a relationship ended yet you are still haunted by it?
Do you have thoughts that don’t feel like they belong to you?
Has a friendship outlasted its time but you don’t know how to gracefully let go?
Do you fall into the same roles in your family dynamics over and over again no matter how old you are and how much you’ve grown?
These are symptoms of negative energetic attachments (cords).
I first heard about decording when I was in my twenties. I was stuck on a guy who wasn’t stuck on me. You could say I was obsessed with this man. I knew intuitively that traditional therapy wasn’t the route I was supposed to take. I went to a psychic instead. This wonderful woman taught me the process of decording. Once I decorded from this man I was not bothered with the obsession again.
It was during the decording process that my psychic gifts appeared. They were buried deep within myself waiting for an opportunity to come forth. Decording is what awakened them. Not everyone will have a dramatic response like I did. You may feel a sense of freedom and relief after you decord though.
Each of us connects with one another on an energetic basis every time we interact. When we smile at someone on the street we energetically connect. Those connections are loving and do not affect us in a negative way.
When we are in deeper relationships those connections (cords) become stronger. When the relationship dissolves those connections can stay intact and then start to drain us, energetically and physically. Sometimes the relationship is with a child who keeps taking and taking. You may not want to end the relationship but you may want to change how you relate to one another. Decording can help you do that.
Benefits of Decording:
find relief from haunting thoughts
reclaim your sense of self
re-establish healthy energetic boundaries with the people in your life
Please consider coming to Della’s Decording Workshop on Saturday, October 14th. Email me at email@example.com to register. I have one on one decording sessions and telephone sessions available as well. Find out more here.
I know this is going to sound weird but you should be used to that from me by now. 😉
The first time I explored meeting my money guide through hypnosis I didn’t see much. An ethereal being was reaching out to me and I couldn’t grasp her hand. That first experience showed me how the Universe is trying to assist me but I was still unable to receive it.
During that session I worked through some blocks and when I tried the hypnosis again Glenda the good witch from The Wizard of Oz showed up! Crazy fun right?
I’ve been working with her for about two weeks now and I can see how she is helping me. Her guidance seems to be in the form of inspiration. I have many new ideas on how to expand my business. I look forward to following through on these new ideas and pull them into form.
She also helps me with fear. Ever since the election I can feel all the economic anxiety that is vibrating on the planet. We simply do not yet know how things will unfold with our newly elected leaders. She waves her magic wand and reminds me that “There’s no place like home.” Home is the quiet place at the center of my being. Home is my heart. Home is my breath. There is no fear when I am home.
If you would like to meet your personal money guide I can help. You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or you can find out more about me at my website here.
When my son was a little boy we use to watch a lot of Star Trek. The captain, when protecting his ship, would tell the crew, “Shields Up!”. When it came time to teach my son about the Auric field I would tell him to put his shields up just like in the show. We would do this whenever we would be go into a place where there were a lot of people and unknown energies.
The Auric field is an energy field that surrounds all living things. A human’s energy field extends from and beyond the body. A strong aura will protect you from negative energy. The yogi’s tell us that, “All illness goes into the aura first.” When you have a strong, vibrant aura you can keep illness at bay.
Have you ever noticed when talking with someone and they get a little too close how you start to back away. They aren’t touching you but you feel as if they are invading your “space.” That “space” is your Auric field. The size of the Auric field is usually around 18 inches – 3 feet around the body. It can be larger or smaller depending on how you feel in any given moment. When you meditate your Auric field expands. If you’ve just been in an argument your Auric field can contract.
The aura is made up of multiple colors. Each color represents a different characteristic of your personality. A lot of yellow in an aura can tell us a person is more intellectual or has a lot of personal power. Green is the color of healing energy. It can mean you are being healed or that you are one who uses healing energy to help others. The colors are constantly changing with the thoughts that you think and the mood you are in.
When the aura is strong you feel healthy and energetic. When your aura is weak or porous you can feel tired and even depressed. One of the ways to strengthen your Auric field is to take a walk in nature; smell some flowers or go hug a tree. Nature is a natural Auric field cleanser and strengthener.
Just like a wound on the body the aura can be harmed as well. If we are constantly subjected to negative comments from self or others or you happen to engage in addictive behaviors the aura can become weak and can no longer do its job. There are many ways to heal and strengthen the Auric field. Yoga & meditation, walking in nature, taking a shower while visualizing colors of the rainbow streaming down and around your body are just a few ways. I encourage you to do your own research to find a way that works for you. There are many resources out on the web these days that can assist you on your journey.
I will be teaching a class on August 7th about the Auric Field. Contact me if you are interested in attending. You can find out more here.