First off, let’s talk about what an empath is. An empath is a highly sensitive individual who picks up on the energies of those around them. If you see someone in pain you can feel it. Being in a crowd overwhelms you. You may be sensitive to smells, foods, people, situations, and even things. It may feel like you never want to leave the house even on a good day.
Not all empaths are created equal either. Being an empath myself I have met people who are more sensitive and less sensitive than I am. What bothers me may not bother you. As a child, you may have been easily emotional and liked to spend lots of time alone.
We empaths used to be called overly emotional or “too” sensitive and it was considered a negative thing. Now, we are being recognized for the highly intuitive beings that we are. We are the healers of the world. We tend to be nurturers and environmentally conscious. We are highly creative and are often the person that is turned to when you need a shoulder to cry on.
For years, I have been reading and hearing that we as a human race will some day evolve to a place where we can communicate with one another telepathically. Being an empath is the start of that evolution. It’s not that an empath can read your mind but they do sense the emotions that you are emitting. Because this is not mainstream thinking it is easy for the empath to wonder if there is something wrong with them. We often feel like we are crazy. We may have been medicated as children or we drank and used drugs as we got older to shut it off, never knowing what it was. If this is you, you are not alone.
I have been one of the lucky ones. I used drink and drugs when I was younger but that didn’t work for me. I didn’t start to feel a measure of peace around this gift, and yes, it is a gift, until I started practicing Kundalini Yoga over 12 years ago. Since then I have learned many ways to bring myself back into balance. I want to share them with you. Check out my workshop The Care & Feeding of an Empath.
On July 20th I turned 50. Believe it or not I have waited in anticipation for this day for the past year. I awoke my birthday morning and I knew everything had changed. I am not sure I can even explain how and I certainly don’t know why this change came to be. I just suddenly knew that I had arrived! I knew that I no longer had to live my life for anyone other than myself. Its as if a switch was flipped on and I could finally. . . be.
I now have permission to:
- live the life I envision
- not concern myself with what other people think of me
- nap . . . often and without guilt
- appreciate my curves
- say no
- make mistakes
You see, I have always put pressure on myself. I have never felt I was doing enough, being enough, healed enough, spiritual enough, fit enough, etc. You name it and I wasn’t enough. The last few days my “not enough” voice has disappeared. In her place there is a new voice. She says I am beautiful. She says I carry out exactly what I need to when I need to. She says I am powerful and capable. She says I am so much more than enough. . .
Again, I’m not sure why this happened exactly on my 50th birthday. It does make sense why I have felt anticipation for my birthday’s arrival this past year. Who wouldn’t want to let go of “not enough”? Maybe my soul programmed me to let go when I turned 50. Who knows? I just know I could weep with joy with the freedom I feel as a result.
I know I am moving forward into the best time of my life. I can’t wait to see where my adventures brings me.
Della is a psychic reader and intuitive healer. You can find out more about her and her services here.
The Great Mother ever so gently pulled me out of slumber this morning with her rumbling growls and rain softly beating against my window. Dark rainy days cause me to get quiet and go within. The urgency to move isn’t there in the same way as when the sun shines bright.
I make myself a cup of tea and the writing muse strikes me. She urges me two reflect on my life and the joys that emanate from my heart.
My reflections bring me to the work I have chosen this time around. Being self-employed can be a a nerve wracking existence for those of us who live this way. Some weeks are so busy with clients that my head is spinning. The next week might not have any clients scheduled at all. As I have been self-employed for 23 years I have come to understand the ebb and flow of my business.
The weeks I am busy I simply hold on and enjoy the ride! The weeks where no clients are scheduled I repair nets. I once read in the Rune Book by Ralph Blum that when fishermen are unable to go out to sea they repair nets. That analogy has stayed with me over the years. Now, instead of moving into fear that nothing is happening in my business I repair nets. What that looks like for me is I take care of the details of my life that may get pushed off to the wayside when I’m busy. I update my website, I write, I paint, I update my accounting records (I wish!). Riding the ebbs and flows of my life has become a peaceful existence now rather than a fear based one. I see myself on top of those waves instead of floundering in their depths.
Are their nets in need of repair in your life? What have you pushed off for a rainy day . . .
Della is a psychic reader and intuitive healer. Please visit her website here for more information on her and her services.