Are you living in a fishbowl? Often the walls we have erected around us may feel safe, but there is no room for expansion. When the walls are glass, it is even harder to recognize how limited we have become. We can see out, and others can see in so we think we are out there in the world, but love cannot touch us on either side of the glass.
I have been struggling with finding the right and perfect diet for my body. This is not a new struggle. I’ve been exploring this most of my adult life. If there is a diet out there, I have tried it. .. and failed.
I get a new book on the latest fad diet and inhale the information. I go down the youtube rabbit hole and ultimately feel frustrated by all the conflicting information.
When tuning into Guidance this morning, I got that knowledge leads us to intuition but it is not the end result.
Being armed with knowledge can actually get in the way of hearing our intuition. So my answer this morning regarding my diet is to eat more veggies. That is the one thing all of these diets I’ve been researching have in common.
Disclaimer: I am not looking for a weight loss supplement so no solicitations please. My journey is to find the best way to eat for my body for optimal health.
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Discernment means to perceive or recognize a truth by sight or with other senses; knowing.
Faith is a passionate intuition. ~William Wordsworth~
I used to have trouble with the word faith. In the religious sense of the word, it means to have a strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof. Until that is, I realized the word also means complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
We can’t know discernment without faith, faith in ourself that is. How can we know something is true if we can’t trust ourselves to know that it’s true? That is what I am being pulled more and more into, faith in myself. I say pulled into because that is what this feels like. I am gently being pulled deeply into my center. And in my center I find my Truth.
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First off, let’s talk about what an empath is. An empath is a highly sensitive individual who picks up on the energies of those around them. If you see someone in pain you can feel it. Being in a crowd overwhelms you. You may be sensitive to smells, foods, people, situations, and even things. It may feel like you never want to leave the house even on a good day.
Not all empaths are created equal either. Being an empath myself I have met people who are more sensitive and less sensitive than I am. What bothers me may not bother you. As a child, you may have been easily emotional and liked to spend lots of time alone.
We empaths used to be called overly emotional or “too” sensitive and it was considered a negative thing. Now, we are being recognized for the highly intuitive beings that we are. We are the healers of the world. We tend to be nurturers and environmentally conscious. We are highly creative and are often the person that is turned to when you need a shoulder to cry on.
For years, I have been reading and hearing that we as a human race will some day evolve to a place where we can communicate with one another telepathically. Being an empath is the start of that evolution. It’s not that an empath can read your mind but they do sense the emotions that you are emitting. Because this is not mainstream thinking it is easy for the empath to wonder if there is something wrong with them. We often feel like we are crazy. We may have been medicated as children or we drank and used drugs as we got older to shut it off, never knowing what it was. If this is you, you are not alone.
I have been one of the lucky ones. I used drink and drugs when I was younger but that didn’t work for me. I didn’t start to feel a measure of peace around this gift, and yes, it is a gift, until I started practicing Kundalini Yoga over 12 years ago. Since then I have learned many ways to bring myself back into balance. I want to share them with you. Check out my workshop The Care & Feeding of an Empath.
For the past 2 weeks I have been experiencing chronic back pain. I have done all the usual things that someone like me who is an alternative therapies junkie can think of to release the pain. Yoga, castor oil packs, chakra cleansing, massage, barefoot hiking and more have all been part of this healing regime. I am a firm believer that my physical symptoms have an emotional cause.
Yoga seems to be where I can get in touch with the messages my body wants to speak due to the quiet that comes over me during the practice. I know the root of my symptoms are stemming from my first and second chakras by where the pain has been radiating from.
The first chakra (base of the spine) holds our ideas about safety and security and governs the skeletal system. The second chakra (naval) holds the energy of creativity and sexuality and governs the sex organs. Every thing below the navel in my back and legs has been stiff, sore and uncomfortable as hell.
When I tuned into my body during my yoga practice I got the message that my pain was due to my son leaving for Swaziland and the Peace Corps for 27 months. I won’t be able to pick up the phone and talk to him whenever I feel like it. I won’t be able to text him to tell him I love him whenever the mood strikes. My son will not have the luxuries that we have here in the West. He doesn’t even know if he will have access to electricity until he gets there, much less a cell phone.
The grief that I thought I was dealing with so well has shown up in my body. My identity as a mother is being challenged to let go. Because I have been unconsciously resistant to my identity changing, my body has been holding itself tightly and creating pain and stiffness.
Now that I know the emotional roots of my physical pain I can begin the true healing journey. For me that begins with willingness. “I am willing to be willing to be willing.” I plan to continue to get massage and chiropractic care and what ever else I am guided to do.
I will never not be my son’s mother. But I willingly let go of that particular attachment to my identity. Being James’ mother is a part of me but not the totality of me. As I write this there are tears of release and relief. The more that I free my son from my attachments the more free he becomes to be who he is meant to be.
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One day, while practicing yoga I began to weep. Yoga will often bring up emotions stored deep in the cells of the body. I had been weeping on and off for the past few months. This day was different. This grief was coming from deep inside me. It felt different from anything else I had experienced up til then. I was told by my Soul that I was carrying the collective grief of my family in my body. This time it was coming up to be healed. The grief was so intense that I asked for help. “Please help me!” I cried. “I can not do this any longer!”
Asking for help was something I didn’t do any longer for I had given up on God. I no longer talked to my angels or my spirit guides (unless I was giving a reading.) I turned inward for my Guidance. My Soul became my go to for any assistance I needed. I still believed in angels and spirit guides but I didn’t want to talk to them anymore. I wanted to keep my spiritual conversations internal. I thought if I did that I could simplify my spiritual life. I no longer wanted to be the woo-woo girl.
In doing this I let go of an enormous asset to my life. That day on the mat I surrendered and asked for help. I immediately felt a presence and arms embrace me. I sense it was an angel but it doesn’t really matter. It was comfort exactly when I needed it. Since then my grief has lessened with each passing day. I’ve been experiencing moments of peace and joy. I’ve been asking my spirit helpers to assist me in little things as well as the bigger issues. You see, these Helpers don’t interfere in our lives. They can’t. Yet, they are ready and excited to help as soon as we ask.
We are not alone. We are never alone. So, I encourage you to ask for help. Ask your friends, your family, your angels and your guides. Asking for help isn’t weakness. Asking for help is one of the most empowering things you can do.
Della is an intuitive reader and hands on healer. You can find out more about her here.
Often, while giving an intuitive reading for someone a message will come through that is meant for more than just the client. The message that came through this day was meant for every woman on the planet. The Goddess came through and this is what she said:
Every time you say something negative about another woman you are saying that same thing about yourself. Every time you say something negative about another woman it affects every woman on the planet. Every negative thought about your self affects every woman every where.
In today’s society, we are programmed to believe that we are not good enough. Our standard of beauty is skewed by the corporations who want our money. Unfortunately, marketing campaigns set up this unrealistic standard and then hones in on that which makes us less than the ideal. A very clever ruse to keep us purchasing products and enslaved in negativity.
In recent months I have seen a change. Yet, there is a long way to go. Aerie (lingerie company) is using real women’s bodies in their Instagram campaign. More and more celebrities are eschewing being photo shopped. A revolution is beginning and women are at the forefront. It is only we who can change the mindset of the masses about what beauty is. It begins by changing our own minds first. Loving ourselves is a process, an unfolding, and a knowing that we are more than what others think of us.
When you look in the mirror what do you say to yourself? Can you begin to see what is beautiful about you instead of what you think of as flawed? This has been my process of discovery too. I, like so many women, have had to de-program myself and I am not yet completely free. I use that word very intentionally. The word program means: to cause to absorb or incorporate so as to produce a specific response or reaction.
We have bought into the program hook, line and sinker. Only we can pull ourselves out of the depths of self-loathing that is our common thinking. How do we do this? By practicing self-love. Easier said than done, I know. That is why I use the word practice. This is not something you do once or twice and you magically love and accept yourself. This is a daily commitment to you.
This change can be hard as we are barraged by negative messages on an ongoing basis. We hear these messages from our movies, our magazines, our men and even other women. We need to stand strong if we are going to change our world. We need to start recognizing our original and unique beauty. Only we can define that for ourselves. And, once we do, we need to show it to the world with pride in our sense of self. We teach people how to define us. From this moment forth write a new definition of who you are and fall in love with your beautiful self.
Della is a healer, teacher, an artist and a yogi. You can find out more about her and her services here.
I am teaching a workshop on Oct. 2nd on Learning To Love Your Body. Click here to find out more and register for the workshop.
On July 20th I turned 50. Believe it or not I have waited in anticipation for this day for the past year. I awoke my birthday morning and I knew everything had changed. I am not sure I can even explain how and I certainly don’t know why this change came to be. I just suddenly knew that I had arrived! I knew that I no longer had to live my life for anyone other than myself. Its as if a switch was flipped on and I could finally. . . be.
I now have permission to:
- live the life I envision
- not concern myself with what other people think of me
- nap . . . often and without guilt
- appreciate my curves
- say no
- make mistakes
You see, I have always put pressure on myself. I have never felt I was doing enough, being enough, healed enough, spiritual enough, fit enough, etc. You name it and I wasn’t enough. The last few days my “not enough” voice has disappeared. In her place there is a new voice. She says I am beautiful. She says I carry out exactly what I need to when I need to. She says I am powerful and capable. She says I am so much more than enough. . .
Again, I’m not sure why this happened exactly on my 50th birthday. It does make sense why I have felt anticipation for my birthday’s arrival this past year. Who wouldn’t want to let go of “not enough”? Maybe my soul programmed me to let go when I turned 50. Who knows? I just know I could weep with joy with the freedom I feel as a result.
I know I am moving forward into the best time of my life. I can’t wait to see where my adventures brings me.
Della is a psychic reader and intuitive healer. You can find out more about her and her services here.
The Great Mother ever so gently pulled me out of slumber this morning with her rumbling growls and rain softly beating against my window. Dark rainy days cause me to get quiet and go within. The urgency to move isn’t there in the same way as when the sun shines bright.
I make myself a cup of tea and the writing muse strikes me. She urges me two reflect on my life and the joys that emanate from my heart.
My reflections bring me to the work I have chosen this time around. Being self-employed can be a a nerve wracking existence for those of us who live this way. Some weeks are so busy with clients that my head is spinning. The next week might not have any clients scheduled at all. As I have been self-employed for 23 years I have come to understand the ebb and flow of my business.
The weeks I am busy I simply hold on and enjoy the ride! The weeks where no clients are scheduled I repair nets. I once read in the Rune Book by Ralph Blum that when fishermen are unable to go out to sea they repair nets. That analogy has stayed with me over the years. Now, instead of moving into fear that nothing is happening in my business I repair nets. What that looks like for me is I take care of the details of my life that may get pushed off to the wayside when I’m busy. I update my website, I write, I paint, I update my accounting records (I wish!). Riding the ebbs and flows of my life has become a peaceful existence now rather than a fear based one. I see myself on top of those waves instead of floundering in their depths.
Are their nets in need of repair in your life? What have you pushed off for a rainy day . . .
Della is a psychic reader and intuitive healer. Please visit her website here for more information on her and her services.
To quiet the mind lengthen the breath.
Being a yogi and a psychic you would think I would get this by now. But no, I need reminders too. Before I begin my yoga practice or am in a healing session with a client, I begin to breathe. The breath slows my mind down and connects me to Source. It is from there I can listen for the messages from my soul.
Here is a brief primer on how to lengthen your breath so you can hear your intuition.
Before you begin this technique write out/or hold a question in your mind you are needing more clarity on. Then let us begin . . .
Close your eyes and lengthen your spine.
Become aware of your sitting bones if on your bum or your feet if standing. Bringing attention to these areas helps you become more grounded and present in your body.
Begin by taking long, slow deep breaths in through the nose and out through the nose. Do this for several breaths
Become aware of the beat of your heart.
As you inhale count four beats of your heart. As you exhale count 5 beats. Continue this cycle for several breaths.
Next, Inhale for 5 beats of your heart and exhale for 6 beats. Continue this cycle for several breaths. You can add more heart beats as you are comfortable. Do this for as long as you like.
Open your eyes.
Notice how you feel more grounded and centered in your whole being after breathing this way. Now you can ask your questions of your intuition. You may have already received the answer on the breath. If you have not received clarity to your question allow your intuition to speak to you over the next few hours or even days. Trust that the answers will come . . .
Della McGee is a psychic and a certified yoga teacher. Please visit her website at www.innerpeacemovementstudio.com