Definition – a strong affection, devotion or attachment
I was delighted when this word of the day came to me. Who doesn’t love Love?
Yet, the more I opened myself to Spirit’s meaning behind this word the more I realized today’s definition was about loving oneself. It is easy to have an affection for a child or a friend but when I turned that love around onto myself it was no longer easy. I encourage you to ask yourself these questions? Do I have a strong affection for myself? Am I devoted to me? If the answer is yes, what does that look like? If the answer is not so much what can you do to change that around? Get your journal out and write about this. You may discover more about yourself than you even realize.
Definition – a delicate expression of love and consideration
When I first tuned into the word of the day I was immediately filled with tenderness. It started in my heart and spread throughout my being. It was a warm and loving, kind and gentle feeling. I say was because the moment of tenderness was fleeting. That made me think that tenderness is an ongoing practice rather than something to take for granted.
It can be easy to extend tenderness toward another but I am guided to invite you to be tender with yourself today. What would that feel like and how would that look if you were tender with you right now? How could tenderness dictate your actions towards yourself in this moment? Good luck and please share your experience of tenderness with me.
Are you feeling “off” now that the eclipse is over? I know I am. Leading up to the eclipse I was experiencing a great deal of fatigue and anxiety. Now that the eclipse is over I feel depressed and even more fatigue. The energy of the eclipse brought a lot of my issues to the surface. I had been happily ignoring them where they were buried.
Now that those issues are uncovered I have no choice but to face them. Yes, of course, there is always a choice, but do I really want to let those buried emotions come out of their hidey holes in inappropriate ways any longer? Nope.
I live in an old historic school-house and the building is quite large. I live here with many other people. The weird thing is that for some reason everyone but me left for an extended period of time and I am here all by myself. I live on the very top floor in the attic. My first night alone I was completely creeped out to be here by myself. I hardly slept at all and I was too afraid to go down stairs to pee in the middle of the night so I used a Tupperware container to relieve myself in.
The next morning I was able to get in touch with just how ridiculous my fear of being alone in the school was. I decided to see those night time fears as a metaphor for all the scary monsters in my unconscious’ closet. I haven’t peed in Tupperware since! The point is, my issues (monsters in my closet) are all fears, fear of being abandoned, fear of rejection, fear of not having enough money, fear of being alone, and the list goes on and on. Fear is what wants to be healed right now and I am going with it.
There is a huge physical response when you let go of something that no longer serves you. It is like a virus that your body is trying to purge. The symptoms can be very similar. In my case, the virus (fear) is still wiggling around in my body trying to find purchase. The eclipse was the microscope that found the virus and my intention to heal is the antigen that will bring me back to myself.
Fear isn’t the enemy though. It was created to keep us safe. Back in the day, this was necessary for survival. Fear told us when to run and hide from the giant saber tooth tiger that wanted to eat us. As humanity evolved fear took on a new role. It adapted to its new environment. No longer is it needed to warn us of saber tooth tigers. Now days fear tells us to be afraid of everything and everyone. It even tells us to fear love. Yet love is the only thing that can face fear and shine a light on the truth.
I am going to say this right here and you may wince when you read this. I still need my fear. I am not always paying attention and I want a warning if I am in harms way. I have a strong survival instinct within me and fear can help me stay alive. Where it gets tricky is knowing when you are in danger or just being afraid because you are afraid. This is where discernment comes in.
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary discernment is the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure. The very nature of fear is obscure which means it’s hidden in darkness. Think about the moon hiding the sun during an eclipse. If the moon is our fears and the sun is our light then we can see how the Universe is giving us a metaphor that is impossible to miss.
How do we get to discernment? Here are some of the tools I use:
I write every day. I have a 500 word a day practice. You can read about how I go about this here
yoga & meditation
Pranayam – you can’t hold fear in your body and breathe deeply at the same time (wise words from my first yoga teacher)
anything that gets me out of my head and into my heart.
This message isn’t about eliminating fear. It is about using fear to our advantage. I live in a world where fear thrives. That is the nature of living on this planet where duality is the theme. I don’t believe we are to ignore fear, or expunge it, nor deny it. The key to enlightenment isn’t the absence of fear but freedom from it. It is up to us to choose it.
Della is an intuitive reader, teacher, and healer. If you would like to find out more about how she can assist you with the eclipse blues click here.
It’s been a rough week. I’m back visiting and working in the Twin Cities where I have lived much of the past 35 years. When I am in Ashland, where I currently live, I can pretty well stay focused on the here and now. But when I come back to the place where so much has happened in my life grief is triggered.
During a recent yoga & soul art workshop Guidance came through my painting and said loud and clear that the grief I have been holding so dear is really fear. It took me a couple of days to understand that on more than an intellectual level. I really heard the message and wanted to honor the wisdom within so I made a commitment to let my grief go. I ended up with a migraine for two days following that decision. I had no idea that the grief I had been carrying was so toxic.
The more I let go the more I realize that my grief is keeping me connected to a relationship that is long gone. Laying in wait for me under all that grief was a deep loneliness. Now that I am face to face with that loneliness the trick is to not run. In the past I would distract myself with social media or binge watching my favorite shows or my particular favorite, eating my self into oblivion.
What I’ve never done before is look loneliness straight in the eye and ask for its wisdom. I am afraid it will consume me if I stand and face it. Yet, running is no longer an option. I don’t have the strength any more to avoid what is coming. If I had faith in God this probably wouldn’t frighten me so. But my faith died many years ago. What I do believe in is Nature and its infinite beauty. It’s this Force that I call on now as my trial awaits me.
I feel like Katniss Everdeen in the Hunger Games with her bow and arrows strapped to her back waiting to jump into the fray. . . I will survive this.
I know this is going to sound weird but you should be used to that from me by now. 😉
The first time I explored meeting my money guide through hypnosis I didn’t see much. An ethereal being was reaching out to me and I couldn’t grasp her hand. That first experience showed me how the Universe is trying to assist me but I was still unable to receive it.
During that session I worked through some blocks and when I tried the hypnosis again Glenda the good witch from The Wizard of Oz showed up! Crazy fun right?
I’ve been working with her for about two weeks now and I can see how she is helping me. Her guidance seems to be in the form of inspiration. I have many new ideas on how to expand my business. I look forward to following through on these new ideas and pull them into form.
She also helps me with fear. Ever since the election I can feel all the economic anxiety that is vibrating on the planet. We simply do not yet know how things will unfold with our newly elected leaders. She waves her magic wand and reminds me that “There’s no place like home.” Home is the quiet place at the center of my being. Home is my heart. Home is my breath. There is no fear when I am home.
If you would like to meet your personal money guide I can help. You can contact me at email@example.com or you can find out more about me at my website here.
Do not be alarmed by the outcome of your election. Whom ever you voted for trust that the highest good is in store for the planet. You are not alone. Even the darkest of nights can hold the most promising futures. We invite you to look within and find the love in your heart. Change, in all its forms, is a good thing. You wanted change and you got it. It may or may not be in the human body you voted for but change is upon you. Embrace it. Now is the time to shine your light brightly. Now is the time to breathe deep, go within and love yourself. Change begins with you.
Here are some suggestions to “be the change”:
spend time in nature
connect with your animal friends
play with your kids
take long delicious baths
cook and share a meal with your loved ones
All of these suggestions are to bring you into the present moment. Fear is simply anxiety about the future. Practice Presence. It can be as simple as noticing the freckles on your child’s nose or smelling the fragrance of a flower. Any time you bring yourself back into the NOW moment you empower yourself. True power comes from within.
Remember the opportunity in every situation that occurs. What will you choose: Love or fear?
Della is a channel, healer, and hypnosis facilitator. You can find out more about her here.
Today is a good day to get quiet and go within. Trust in the safety of your soul’s embrace. When you breathe and center your energies you help balance the chaos that is permeating the air.
You may feel guided to eat lighter and rest more. Follow the wisdom of your body as it will speak to you in subtle ways and then more loudly if you do not listen. When you take care of yourself it anchors the energy of peace on the planet. Image your world if everyone listened to their body and practiced self-love. Peace would prevail.
You are taught to do, do do and go, go, go. Your modern technology has helped you forget the rhythms of the earth, the moon and stars. Look to the moon with its waxing and waning. It will show you the way of dark and light. The dark moon is the time to go within, gather your resources and plant your seeds. The full moon beckons you to shine your light for the world to see and reap the harvest of your planted dreams.
Only you can bring peace to the world. Begin by closing your eyes . . . now take a deep breath in. . . now let it go. . . Ahhhhhh. Notice how quickly you can release the tensions of the world simply by letting that deep breath go. . .