Folding Laundry

Folding-LaundryFolding laundry is my least favorite domestic chore. I usually call a friend while I fold and put everything away or listen to a podcast — anything to distract me from the task at hand.

Today I took a different approach. I decided to be present for the experience. As I lifted each item of laundry out of the basket, I felt the texture and the heat of each piece. I was aware of how jeans hold heat more intensely than a sock. I noticed how washcloths are rough, and napkins are smooth. And the smell of fresh laundry is a delight.

Instead of being a “chore” it was a joy-filled experience. Now, to take that presence into other areas of my life.

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Word of The Day: Inhabit

dancerposeWord of The Day:  Inhabit

Definition – (of a person, animal, or group) live in or occupy (a place or environment).

As I was practicing my yoga this morning I was thinking about how much I admired people who fully inhabited their body.  I am not one of those people.  As an empath, I feel everything.  I am very sensitive to pain, mine, and other peoples.  As such, I am not very present in my body.

When I looked up the definition of the word today I was struck by the fact that inhabit is a verb, an action word.  To inhabit one’s body is an active state of being.  I asked Guidance how do I learn to inhabit my body.  I was told to breathe long and deep.  You have to be fully in your body to breathe long and deep.  You just can’t do it otherwise.  That is my practice for today.  Breathe.  Inhale and exhale.  Long and slow.

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Claiming Your Inner Child For Health, Happiness & Wholeness

7a43b6786034306c6d3ce3272c610803Have you claimed your Inner Child yet?  I for one, have dabbled here and there and promptly forgotten her when all was said and done.  The thing about the inner child is she will NOT be ignored!  The more our inner children are forgotten about the more they tend to act out.  I have recently reconnected with my inner child and she was a confused, frightened and lonely little girl.  She not only felt abandoned and alone she felt angry about it too.

I believe my Inner Child is at the root of my addictions and tendencies towards co-dependency.  Since she does not have the skill set to soothe herself she turns to sugar, carbs, obsessive behaviors and distraction.  This creates an imbalance in my system and disharmony in my life.  On the one hand, my Wise Self knows what actions she needs to take to create peace in my world. But, if I am not taking into account the needs of my inner child, I end up battling between my Wise Self and my Child Self.  This creates a cycle low self-esteem and shame.

They key to wholeness is claiming our Inner Child.

All my life I have wanted a man to claim me.  Time and time again I have picked unavailable men to be in relationship with.  When these relationships failed I became lost and heartbroken.   This work has shown me that if I am unwilling to claim myself then no one else can either.

Where to begin?

It begins with acknowledgement.  Once my inner child is acknowledged and heard she stops acting out and I have the power to take right action in my life again.  Yet, it takes more than that initial recognition.  It takes constancy.  I’ve begun to learn what my inner child’s voice sounds like.  When my behavior feels childish I can stop myself and ask what she needs.  When I ask my self, “Where did that come from?”  It is often my inner child trying to get her needs met in a way my adult never would.   It is, most often, that she needs to be heard.

The final piece of the puzzle is integration.  This takes time.  Before your inner child can be integrated there needs to be a relationship built between the parent (your adult self) and the inner child.  You will know when you’ve become integrated when you begin to feel more grounded, whole and complete.

Let’s say hi to our inner child.

Close your eyes for a moment and take a few deep breaths.  Go within your heart space or your belly and ask for your child to show themself.  What do they look like?  What emotions are they expressing?  Your child may be scared or angry.  Your child may be happy or sad.  What ever the case let the adult you embrace the child you.  Take a few more deep breaths and hold each other.  Talk to your child and let them know you love them.  Let them know that you are there to take care of them.  It may take awhile for your child to trust you.  This is normal.  Now say good-bye for now and come back to this present moment.  How did that feel?  Now do this again the next day, and the next, and . . . until you feel your child and you as one.

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Touched By An Angel

angel-embraceOne day, while practicing yoga I began to weep.  Yoga will often bring up emotions stored deep in the cells of the body.  I had been weeping on and off for the past few months.  This day was different.  This grief was coming from deep inside me.  It felt different from anything else I had experienced up til then.  I was told by my Soul that I was carrying the collective grief of my family in my body.  This time it was coming up to be healed.  The grief was so intense that I asked for help.  “Please help me!” I cried.  “I can not do this any longer!”

Asking for help was something I didn’t do any longer for I had given up on God.   I no longer talked to my angels or my spirit guides (unless I was giving a reading.)  I turned inward for my Guidance.  My Soul became my go to for any assistance I needed.  I still believed in angels and spirit guides but I didn’t want to talk to them anymore.  I wanted to keep my spiritual conversations internal.  I thought if I did that I could simplify my spiritual life.  I no longer wanted to be the woo-woo girl.

In doing this I let go of an enormous asset to my life.  That day on the mat I surrendered and asked for help.  I immediately felt a presence and arms embrace me.  I sense it was an angel but it doesn’t really matter.  It was comfort exactly when I needed it.  Since then my grief has lessened with each passing day.  I’ve been experiencing moments of peace and joy.  I’ve been asking my spirit helpers to assist me in little things as well as the bigger issues.  You see, these Helpers don’t interfere in our lives.  They can’t.  Yet, they are ready and excited to help as soon as we ask.

We are not alone.  We are never alone.  So, I encourage you to ask for help. Ask your friends, your family, your angels and your guides.  Asking for help isn’t weakness.  Asking for help is one of the most empowering things you can do.

Della is an intuitive reader and hands on healer.   You can find out more about her here.

How Self-Pleasure Creates Intimacy

birth-of-aphrodite1In a recent visit to my massage therapist she commented on how I was disconnected from my body.  Lately, I have been in the throes of change both internally (peri-menopause) and externally.  All these changes had caused a disconnection from my body and I had taken up residence in my head.  She suggested self-pleasuring to get me back in touch with myself  Yes, it’s exactly what you think.  Masturbation.

Before peri-menopause you would never have had to suggest masturbation to me.  I had a very high sex drive.  At one point in my life I was concerned with how distracted I was by my desire for sexual release.  Over the past couple years as my hormones have changed so has my sex drive.  What once was a daily ritual became once a week and then too much of a bother at all.

I took up my therapists advice and prescribed myself a daily orgasm.  What started out as a chore became a sensual pleasure.  I began to feel differently in my body.  I am feeling sexy and secure in my skin.  For those of you who know me this is not my norm.  I decided to take this self-pleasure to another level.

Once I connected to the feeling of sensuality and pleasure in my body I incorporated this energy into how I ate and walked and the clothes that I choose to wear.  I decided that I needed to connect more deeply with the Divine Feminine and began using divination tools that directly access the Divine Goddess energies.  Each Goddess from our mythologies carries her own unique characteristics.  She is receptive, creative and nurturing.  She embodies pleasure.  I am using these tools to connect more deeply with the aspects of Her.

Moving my body has become a pleasure as well.  Walking, dancing and yoga have become something more than exercise.  I am delighting in the pure magnificence of my human form.  One morning I slathered myself with coconut oil and then stood under a hot shower and massaged all the tight spots and said thank you for my health and well-being.

Cooking a meal has taken on a whole new meaning.  When I create something in the kitchen I have imagined myself mixing up a sacred potion that I then get to consume with pleasure.

Intimacy means a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.  Connecting with pleasure has made me feel more whole and more present in my life.  That is what intimacy is – being fully present for another.  In this case the other is me.
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I encourage you to invite more pleasure into your life.  It does not have to look like my way.  It can be as simple as playing with your children on the floor, eating a decadent piece of chocolate or dressing up for a night on the town or a night in the bedroom with your lover.  How ever you express and experience pleasure will connect you with yourself more intimately.  Enjoy!
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Della is a healer, psychic, writer, artist and yogi.  You can find out more about her services here.

Don’t Resist The Resistance

Life-is-a-series-of-natural-and-spontaneous-changes.-Lao-TzuThis is what a very wise friend told me a couple of weeks ago:  Don’t resist the resistance.  I was telling her about some resistance I was struggling with due to some challenging symptoms of menopause.  That is when she shared these words with me. I’ve used these words as a mantra since and I find it incredibly liberating.  I use to feel shame for my resistance.  As a spiritual being I’d like to think I can face change head on.  That is often not the case  Now I can see resistance as a harbinger of transformation.
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I am at a place where I can welcome this change in my body now.  I first have to acknowledge my resistance and then I can open to those things to come.  Resistance isn’t a bad thing.  If we aren’t feeling resistance then we can miss the messages our mind and our body is trying to tell us. Resistance is information.  It tells us that something is wanting to change within our being.  The key for me is to acknowledge that it is there and not to fight it.  That gives me the awareness to move beyond resistance to the next step of the journey . . . change.
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Della is a psychic healer, intuitive yoga teacher, soul artist and blogger.  You can find out more about her services at her website.

K.I.S.S. – Keep It Simple Soul

tumblr_me207r1Pdn1qmm3xxo1_500I once had a friend tell me that I was addicted to transformation.  That was many years ago yet that statement has never left me.  What he meant by those words is that I am so often moving on to the next issue that needs healed, processing some emotional angst or reading the next self-help book on the market that I am rarely being in the moment and integrating what I’ve already learned.

I have a stack of books on my table that I want to read yet I can’t seem to crack them open.  I am over saturated with tools and techniques that will help me heal my finances, my self-esteem, my diet, etc.  To be honest I can’t seem to absorb on more tool, one more affirmation, one more suggestion on how to change my life.

It is becoming clear to me that what my friend said is still true.  In keeping myself busy with transforming I never accept that I am already whole and complete.  I never get to fully integrate the healing that has already occurred.  I haven’t celebrated who I have become because of all the work I am still doing.

My Guidance has been gently slowing me down and encouraging me to keep things simple.  What does that mean?  Be in the now.  As I was washing my dishes this morning I noticed I was holding my breath.  When I hold my breath I am either thinking about the past or the future.  I am not living in the now.

For me, keeping it simple means to breathe and be in the present moment.  That is more than enough. . .

Della is a soul artist, healer and a yogi.  You can find out more about her services here.

Mindful Eating: Appreciation

Woman holding an orangeThis morning, while eating sliced apples dipped in pecan butter, I was flooded with an image of the trees the apples and pecans came from.  I could see the trees pregnant with their fruits.  I could feel the sun in the tastes on my tongue.  I had to sit back and reflect on this vision.  It was powerful and profound at the same time.

As I continue to practice mindful eating (I’m far from mastering this meditation) new ways of being with food arise on the journey.  I am filled with appreciation for the food that I ate this morning.  I am filled with gratitude for the trees that bore their fruit for my meal.

I had no want to eat more than my stomach could process.  I sensed the Sun and the Earth filling me with more than nutrients.  I feel filled with light . . .

I am not sure if this vision will return with my next meal.  Yet, I know that I can contemplate where my food comes from the next time I sit down to eat.  This is all part of my mindful eating journey.

Della is a psychic, yogi and a healer.  Please visit her website here for more information on her and her services.

Following The Silence

4-730_Silence_hdI am a doer and a planner.  Lately my guidance has me stepping out of my comfort zone and into intuitive living.  As a psychic you would think this comes easily but it doesn’t always.

I like the feeling of accomplishing tasks.  Getting things done.  This silence that I’m experiencing is empty.  Empty in the way of not feeling the mental push that I usually sense prodding me along.

So, I’m exploring this silence.  Sitting on the couch reading, resting, writing.  I feel anxious.  How are things going to get done?  So much of my self-worth has been determined by what I can carry out in a day.  Old messages from long ago tell me to keep moving.  You haven’t done enough yet.  You haven’t earned your rest.

I am following the silence even through the fear.  I want to see where it brings me. . .

“True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment.”~William Penn~

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