In a recent visit to my massage therapist she commented on how I was disconnected from my body. Lately, I have been in the throes of change both internally (peri-menopause) and externally. All these changes had caused a disconnection from my body and I had taken up residence in my head. She suggested self-pleasuring to get me back in touch with myself Yes, it’s exactly what you think. Masturbation.
Before peri-menopause you would never have had to suggest masturbation to me. I had a very high sex drive. At one point in my life I was concerned with how distracted I was by my desire for sexual release. Over the past couple years as my hormones have changed so has my sex drive. What once was a daily ritual became once a week and then too much of a bother at all.
I took up my therapists advice and prescribed myself a daily orgasm. What started out as a chore became a sensual pleasure. I began to feel differently in my body. I am feeling sexy and secure in my skin. For those of you who know me this is not my norm. I decided to take this self-pleasure to another level.
Once I connected to the feeling of sensuality and pleasure in my body I incorporated this energy into how I ate and walked and the clothes that I choose to wear. I decided that I needed to connect more deeply with the Divine Feminine and began using divination tools that directly access the Divine Goddess energies. Each Goddess from our mythologies carries her own unique characteristics. She is receptive, creative and nurturing. She embodies pleasure. I am using these tools to connect more deeply with the aspects of Her.
Moving my body has become a pleasure as well. Walking, dancing and yoga have become something more than exercise. I am delighting in the pure magnificence of my human form. One morning I slathered myself with coconut oil and then stood under a hot shower and massaged all the tight spots and said thank you for my health and well-being.
Cooking a meal has taken on a whole new meaning. When I create something in the kitchen I have imagined myself mixing up a sacred potion that I then get to consume with pleasure.
Intimacy means a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. Connecting with pleasure has made me feel more whole and more present in my life. That is what intimacy is – being fully present for another. In this case the other is me.
I encourage you to invite more pleasure into your life. It does not have to look like my way. It can be as simple as playing with your children on the floor, eating a decadent piece of chocolate or dressing up for a night on the town or a night in the bedroom with your lover. How ever you express and experience pleasure will connect you with yourself more intimately. Enjoy!
Della is a healer, psychic, writer, artist and yogi. You can find out more about her services here.