I am Woman

I wrote this a few years ago. . .

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Scan 17I stand
on my feet
grounded

centered
in my be-ing

Gathering Strength
and Breath
and Life
in my
breast

Heart beating
with wild
abandon

Never forsaking
myself
for another

Never forgetting
I am Woman

About this painting:  I am currently using acrylics on canvas to explore the chakra system through my painting.  This painting reflects our first chakra.  I’ve entitled it “standing in her power”.  Please email me at della@innerpeacemovementstudio.com if you are interested in purchasing the original painting for yourself.  To find out more about my services please visit me here.

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Is It Safe For Men To Be Vulnerable?

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Recently, one of my male friends posted something incredibly personal and vulnerable on social media.  My first response was “I don’t want to know that about this person.”  My second response was shock that I would have this thought in the first place. For years I have been wanting men to become more vulnerable and share their emotional self and when one of them do I turned away.  I didn’t turn away for long.  I caught myself fairly quickly but my initial reaction gave me pause to see where I still have work to do and the challenge that men are having with being vulnerable in today’s world.

A former boyfriend would always tell me “We got this!”  I felt safe and supported when he would say this to me.  How do men be both strong and vulnerable for us?  The only way they can is if, we as women, allow them to be.  Me saying, “I don’t want to know this about you,” doesn’t create a safe place for vulnerability to occur.

The world we live in has conditioned us to see vulnerability in men as weakness.  When in truth, it takes great courage and strength to become vulnerable. The only way to change this is if we allow one another to be our authentic selves.  Authenticity is often messy and emotional. Holding space is a sacred act that we do when we listen.  True listening involves not just hearing the words that someone speaks but being completely present for them as well.   We have a long way to go with creating a place of safety for men to become vulnerable.  I wonder how the world would change if we did?

This is one view and it is completely from a feminine perspective.  I would love to hear from men what they need from women and even other men to feel safe with being vulnerable.  Please tell us what you need so we can be there for you in a much more sacred way.

Della’s website can be found here.

p.s. – Since I wrote this several days ago I’ve had the awareness that in turning away from this male friend I was also turning away from my own inner man . . . food for thought.

A Beautiful Woman

il_340x270.589278134_sbufOften, while giving an intuitive reading for someone a message will come through that is meant for more than just the client.  The message that came through this day was meant for every woman on the planet.  The Goddess came through and this is what she said:

Every time you say something negative about another woman you are saying that same thing about yourself.  Every time you say something negative about another woman it affects every woman on the planet.  Every negative thought about your self affects every woman every where.

In today’s society, we are programmed to believe that we are not good enough.  Our standard of beauty is skewed by the corporations who want our money.  Unfortunately, marketing campaigns set up this unrealistic standard and then hones in on that which makes us less than the ideal.  A very clever ruse to keep us purchasing products and enslaved in negativity.

In recent months I have seen a change.  Yet, there is a long way to go.  Aerie (lingerie company) is using real women’s bodies in their Instagram campaign.  More and more celebrities are eschewing being photo shopped.  A revolution is beginning and women are at the forefront.  It is only we who can change the mindset of the masses about what beauty is.  It begins by changing our own minds first.  Loving ourselves is a process, an unfolding, and a knowing that we are more than what others think of us.

When you look in the mirror what do you say to yourself?  Can you begin to see what is beautiful about you instead of what you think of as flawed?  This has been my process of discovery too.  I, like so many women, have had to de-program myself and I am not yet completely free.  I use that word very intentionally.  The word program means:  to cause to absorb or incorporate so as to produce a specific response or reaction. 

We have bought into the program hook, line and sinker.  Only we can pull ourselves out of the depths of self-loathing that is our common thinking.  How do we do this?  By practicing self-love.  Easier said than done, I know.  That is why I use the word practice.  This is not something you do once or twice and you magically love and accept yourself.  This is a daily commitment to you.

This change can be hard as we are barraged by negative messages on an ongoing basis.  We hear these messages from our movies, our magazines, our men and even other women.  We need to stand strong if we are going to change our world.  We need to start recognizing our original and unique beauty.  Only we can define that for ourselves.  And, once we do, we need to show it to the world with pride in our sense of self.  We teach people how to define us.  From this moment forth write a new definition of who you are and fall in love with your beautiful self.

Della is a healer, teacher, an artist and a yogi.  You can find out more about her and her services here.

I am teaching a workshop on Oct. 2nd on Learning To Love Your Body.  Click here to find out more and register for the workshop.